- What gets in the way of our ability to care for ourselves?
- How does our social location and history impact who prioritizes self-care and who prioritizes care for others?
- How can we move past stories of martyrdom or selfishness to true empowerment?
Even before the pandemic moved through our communities, many of us struggled to hold the balance of self-care and care for others. For some of us, we have been heavily socialized to show up in ways that maximize others’ well-being, at high, sometimes deadly, costs to ourselves. For others, we have internalized messages of independence, stories that say we thrive based only on our own efforts. The pandemic has brought to our awareness a high level of need that is excruciatingly paired with limited resources of all kinds. We have been confronted with scarcity: from restricted access to masks, tests and other items directly related to the pandemic, to increased food instability and empty supermarket shelves, to limited time as we care for family, children, elders while still attempting, if we’re lucky, to meet work responsibilities. In this session, we will explore how NVC and critical awareness intersect to offer us a model for making decisions that attend to needs. We will discuss the ways that individual and group histories impact our ability to value self-care and practice meeting that self-awareness with compassion and mourning. And, we’ll look at the role NVC can play in bringing a needs-based, rather than moralistic-judgment based, framework to decision-making related to both our care for ourselves and our care for others.
Lead Facilitators: Alicia Garcia, Roxy Manning